When we really stop and think about the people who have impacted our life, there are certain qualities that they all have.
They show care: when you’re hurting, they’re there to see what they can do to help.
They show concern: when they see something is different in your life, they ask you about it. They’re concerned for who you are, what you’re going through and what you need.
They display kindness. They let you choose first. They give you gifts out of kindness. They speak words of encouragement over you. They smile and are welcoming. You feel and know their kindness.
Care, concern, and kindness mark the people who impact us. As I think about my boys and raising them, I’m keenly aware of who I want them to become. But I’m also aware that more is caught than taught. I’ve been asked many times, “Do your boys really like each other? Are they really friends?” The answer is yes. Although friendships are never easy, especially within a home, when we model healthy friendships, it rubs off onto our kids. When we show care, concern and kindness, our children learn this as the norm. When we remind our kids that we are people who show care, concern and kindness, it helps them remember to “be”—not to “strive for “—those attributes. Parenting isn’t easy, but really everything worth doing has its challenges. I’d rather fight the battle at home and raise men who impact the world, than make excuses for why my children are unkind, self-consumed, and careless. How about you?
Practical To-Do’s for Siblings:
– Always say sorry
– Always say I forgive you
– Always hug it out (sometimes I make my boys sit on the couch and hug each other, or hold hands until they stop fighting…some days that’s worse than a spank)
– Remind them they will always be best friends
– Play together
– Work together
– Pray for each other
– Show gratitude and say thank you to each other
Here’s a few cheap summer activities for you and your kids:
* Go get snow cones
* Buy a decent, over-the-door basketball hoop and shoot hoops indoors
* Make tents out of blankets in your living room and watch movies, read books, have tea parties inside it
* Pour all the Legos out in the living room and build a gigantic Lego fortress
* Visit Palo Duro Canyon
* Run through the sprinklers
* Use mini marshmallows and toothpicks to build mini tower structures
* Bubbles…all ages love bubbles
* Fly a kite
* Build an obstacle course through the house or in the back yard
* Watch your favorite sports team and make up chants
* Play video games
* Get a month free subscription to Netflix
* Have a sleepover in the living room
* Laugh a lot
* Enjoy the ones God gave you
I love my boys, as I know you love your kids. May we continually remember what precious gifts they are to us and that God has picked you to mother the children he’s given to you, and me to mother the boys given to me. Be blessed my sweet friends, enjoy your kiddos and enjoy the summer.
This post was written by Julie Snellgrove. To read more about her, click here.