holding hands_2Proverbs 5:18-19 “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.”

So often the world replaces authentic for fantasy…it’s all around us. Romantic novels, fantasy nude videos, pin up models, and inappropriate movies like Magic Mike or 50 Shades of Gray.

With Valentine’s Day around the corner, we are being bombarded by advertisements that encourage us to replace the “real” for something on paper.  To “spice up” our bedroom with sexual pictures of ourselves or lustful images of others.

These things are desensitizing us, as women, and are robbing us of true intimacy in our marriages.

The Bible is very clear about marriage being meant for one man and one women for a lifetime, but the world has told us something different. It’s encouraged us to bring fantasy into our bedrooms, when the Bible tells us to be present, to be available, and to avoid the lusts of this world.

Too often we’re tempted to think that the “real” should be replaced for something on paper.

Dear friends, having a God-honoring marriage means you embrace your issues in your bedroom. If your husband struggles with porn, taking a “sexy” photo of yourself or watching and reading inappropriate material is not going to fix his addiction or help your marriage. Your husband wants to unwrap the real you, not a photo of you on Valentine’s Day.

I guarantee, every husband remembers his wife’s body without a picture.  He remembers the curves of her hips, he remembers the softness of her lips, and he remembers the enjoyment of loving the breasts of the wife of his youth.  (Proverbs 5:18-19)

Although this is a touchy and somewhat vulnerable post to write, I figured, why not?

The world’s going to tell us that we have to keep up with the “pin up” models of this world. The Bible tells us to be present with our husband so that he enjoys our physical touch, our kind words, our home-cooked meals, and the result is that he is then exhilarated always in our love.

Dear Sisters in Christ…I urge you to be present with your husband and allow him to enjoy your body this Valentine’s Day. He doesn’t want a “pin up” model or a picture. He wants you!

This post was written by Julie Snellgrove. To read more about her, click here