Seeing the Goodness of God in Marriage

David and I have been married for almost 31 years…that’s a lot of territory to cover!!  The word God told me to share about our marriage is “testimony.” Revelation 12:11:

And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and the word of their testimony.

Here’s a little bit about our story and the AMAZING goodness of our Daddy!

David and I started out kinda rough.  I found out I was pregnant with Britni at the beginning of my junior year in high school.  We got married that October; I was 16 and David was almost 19.  Going to high school pregnant is NOT fun or easy. David was starting college, while learning to provide for a new wife and baby, so this was also challenging.  We both came into marriage carrying big suitcases of baggage.  I’d been molested for several years as a kid and, while my family was amazing in many ways, there was some unhealthy thinking about life and about God.  David’s parents got divorced, his church split, and when he moved to Texas at 17, he was rebellious, hurt, angry and jaded.  We were two scared, hurting kids trying to figure out how to navigate marriage, parenthood, finances, etc.  So many people told us we would never make it, and there were times WE wondered if we’d make it! Most of the couples around us DIDN’T.

Fast forward to 30 years later.  The GOODNESS OF GOD!!  David and I aren’t just still together, we’re incredibly happy!  We’re pursuing God and what He has for us.  Our lives are so much MORE and BIGGER than we’d ever dreamed was possible.  David never did finish college; it was just too hard on our marriage in that season.  But we’ve been blessed way beyond what we could have ever hoped to imagine financially. And we have amazing kids who are in love with God and pursuing Him!

Here are a few things he’s taught us over the years:

  • Pursue each other. Every year for our anniversary since our 5th, we’ve taken a trip (just the two of us) to invest in our relationship.  Some years we had no money and our trip was two days spent in an Amarillo hotel.  This year it’s two weeks in Hawaii! Make your marriage a priority!  I’ve had people tell me they can’t afford to do that, but they have funds for new cars, going out to eat, toys, hunting, friend trips, etc.  You invest in what you value. Choose wisely!
  • Pursue peace. David is not the enemy.  There is an enemy who wants to steal, kill and destroy, but David is not it.  When we fight, I ask God to change our hearts—to help us line up with heaven and see each other, ourselves, and the situation the way HE sees them.  He’s ALWAYS faithful in that! (James 1:5 says if you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and He will give it to you)
  • Pursue God and allow Him to heal the places that need healing! He’s a healer and a redeemer. He loves you more than you know.  Loving and speaking truth over myself allows me to love others.  If you wouldn’t speak something over someone else, don’t speak it over yourself.

Blessings and abundance over you guys!!

This post was written by Sheila McCay. To read more about her, click here.

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