friendship_tree_image“You’re blessed when you meet Lady Wisdom, when you make friends with Madame Insight. She’s worth far more than money in the bank; her friendship is better than a big salary.” Proverbs 3:13-15 (The Message)

I love people! I feel like I have always been a good friend. I am not one that is “pushy,” but if I know someone is in need, I am there. I love to make people feel welcome, especially at church. Everyone I meet is my friend, in my heart, because I love people so much.

Am I really a good friend?

I will help anyone that needs me, but I have a very hard time asking for help from others. I will listen to my friends talk about all things, pray with or for them, run errands, clean house or just about anything they need. When I am in need, I will try and handle it alone every time. So, am I really a good friend? I can be there for others; do I not think that others can be here for me? God has been dealing with me in this matter, especially while I have been studying Scripture about being a friend. Proverbs 27:9 says: “Just as lotions and fragrance give sensual delight, a sweet friendship refreshes the soul.” If a friendship is one sided (as in my case sometimes), how can I be refreshed just as I want my friends to be? And am I really refreshing to them?

God seems to be speaking to me at this very moment that I need to be a better friend and trust others with my heart. Just this week my life has been crazy. I have gone to funerals of two of my classmates from school. One of them I met in the first grade and we were good friends that drifted apart as life occurred. The other I met in high school, and we were sort of friends then, but in our adult lives we had become very dear friends.

As seasons change, friends change. I hold so many in my heart, but life happens and we may grow apart in body, always with promises to stay in touch.

I believe we have circles of friends. The large circle is far reaching, past, present and future. Then a closer circle is for people that you have some contact with. The small, intimate circle is for those that you do life with now. My circles have changed many times over my lifetime. I still think of them as my friends, and will always carry them in my heart, even if life changes our situations.

I believe that the foundation of friendship is love. In 1 John 4:7 it says “Dear friend, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God.” I would love to be known as a person of extraordinary love, therefore, extraordinary friendship. I want people to say that I am a friend, no matter who you are or what you look like or where you have been or what you have done. The only way that I can achieve this is to learn it from the best teacher, God. He is love!

“The amazing grace of the Master, Jesus Christ, the extravagant love of God, the intimate friendship of the Holy Spirit, be with you all.” 2 Corinthians 13:14

This post was written by Debbie Crosby. To read more about her, click here.