Summertime is a stressful season for me each year. Honestly, it’s rough for this momma who thrives on routine and is task-oriented. I’ve always raised a large household of children and I feel the most settled when my children are in school. I feel organized and accomplished with my time management. I love my personal time, my time with God, getting my groceries bought, bills being paid. However, before summer even began, I felt God tugging on my heart to take a step back and enjoy these people he has given me. Two of my children graduated this May and one is a Senior this coming year. Three of my seven children are no longer living at home. This has been sobering for me. What I’m doing with the time left with them suddenly hit hard; the years fly by and before you know it, they leave home. Raising kids is hard work and I have regrets about not always being a mom who enjoys the moment and makes life fun in my home. This summer, I have allowed myself to be free from the expectations I usually would place on myself. Here are a few ideas for you to think on:
- Don’t over think it, live in the moment.
- I spontaneously took my kids to the 10pm/late show at the theater (appropriate clean shows) in our pjs.
- We went to McDonald’s and ordered burgers off the dollar menu after 11pm.
- Create an environment for your kids and their friends to have fun. You want to be their greatest influence and want them to like to be around you.
- I have allowed friends to stay overnight often (friends of good influence).
- We took them to the park and cooked out.
- We let them build camp fires in our back yard where they could all hang out.
- Quality time as a family without technology distractions.
- We make breakfast meals together with the tv off and worship music on.
- We allow them to stay up late, laying in our bed talking and listening to their hearts.
I’m not advocating we be irresponsible and without structure this summer; there has to be a balance. I encourage you to lay down the routine and give yourself grace and permission to be free from your own judgements of what we should be doing with our children and the judgements of what other moms might think. It does not have to be glamorous nor cost money to invest in our children lives. You have exactly what it takes to be a mom, you’re exactly the right mother God created for your children. God used the book of Ecclesiastes to speak to me when my journey to letting myself off the hook first began. Go make memories with those precious little/big people in your house, don’t miss it! And remember, GRACE upon GRACE upon GRACE, you can do it!
He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human heart; yet no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end. I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink and find satisfaction in their work—this is the gift of God. Ecclesiastes 3:11-13
We would like to thank Brenda Martinez for sharing this post.